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My New Shadow

Against my better judgement, I went out and picked up a new dog, a puppy actually. I have always wanted a rat terrier, they have been known to have a good reputation and they are adorable as pups. This pup seems to be housebroke at eight-weeks old. Is this possible? I wouldn't believe it if I wasn't living it. Jasper is one cool rat terrier.

rat terriers are not for those who want a quiet, slow-do nothing dog. They are full of energy and love to play. Don't let the size, (or lack of) these dogs fool you, even thou they make for a good apartment size dog, they still need exercise. to keep a rat terrier healthy and happy, 30 minutes of vigorous play is recommended. This could prove to be burdensome for my freelancing, but with a dog like this I'm sure.everything will work out just fine.

How To Avoid the Break Down of Trust

Trust is defined as a firm reliance on the integrity or ability of a person or thing. All relationships are built around trust, personal, business or family- all relationships are built on trust. Unfortunately, once the foundation of trust has been broken, it can take an enormous amount of time to get it back. Here are five ways that trust can be shaken, and how to prevent it.

Secrecy

By far the biggest trust killer of all is living in secrecy. Once a person falls into the trap of hiding something, wither it be an action, a conversation or embarrassing moment, trust will begin to crumble. It may not happen immediately, but sooner or later no matter how big or small, secrets will be exposed and the trust will fade. Think of secrecy as an invisible blanket. Once you harbor a tiny little secret within yourself, you establish a barrier between yourself and your partner. Eventually, the invisible blanket becomes physical, and the one you keep the secrets from will notice a change, even the slightest change is enough to throw up a red flag, and once the flag is thrown the distrust comes into play. When you trust someone, you depend on their ability to understand and support your actions. Keep in mind that the person that is involved needs to have the same trust in you as you do them. Keeping conversations open and sharing feelings and emotions is a way to build trust.

Acting

A person can lose trust from the behavior or body language of another. When having a conversation with someone you care for and an opinion is sought, say what you mean. When asked a question, resist the temptation to save face. If you disagree with a comment, although you may say you agree, your body language will clearly state your honest opinion. When someone sees the conflict between mind and body, it become clear that they're not being honest and the red flag appears again.

Unmet needs.

In general, we become involved in a relationship to have our needs met. In a healthy trusting relationship, you should be able to clearly state your needs to your partner. If you feel a resistance in sharing your needs, it may send a signal that you're hiding something from your partner. Maybe your partner will start to feel that some of your needs are being met in other ways, and here we go, the red flag falls once again. Find sometime and search yourself. What exactly are your needs to feel fulfilled in a relationship? Do you feel a need for more conversation? Do you need to be cuddled more on the couch while watching a movie? Do you need a spicier bedroom romp? Repressing your needs can also cause the blanket effect, and may cause you to withhold some emotions to your partner. Set some time for yourself and establish your needs and then discuss them with your other half.

Avoidance

At some point in every relationship, there is a time where there is going to be something you just don't want to discuss. This is under

Sustainable, but a hindrance at the same time. Avoiding a situation brings out the dreaded blanket barrier. Your partner will clearly be able to see that there is something bothering you, and what do you suppose they will think when you avoid the problem? They're going to assume the worst. To build trust, you need to be ready to embrace confrontation. Be willing to communicate delicate situations and be ready to seek a healthy solution to the problems, open communication develops trust.

Individuality

Among all things in building trust, remain yourself. Never go into a relationship trying to please the other person if it makes you bend your character. Be honest with yourself and your partner at the start. A relationship is built on honesty. If you find yourself in a relationship where you have to pretend to be someone else, you're being dishonest to yourself and your partner. You will find yourself becoming uneasy in situations because you're not allowed to cope with the situation on a normal level. The uneasiness will most certainly be noticed by your partner and when the truth comes out, questions to why you deceived them will develop.

Keeping a relationship healthy means having a high level of trust. Using the above tips may help you foster a deeper relationship.

When Words Arent Enough

There comes a point in every relationship, no matter how in love you are with someone, there’s going to be some kind of strain. Maybe someone doesn’t feel like their being listened to, or maybe there’s not enough affection. Eventually every relationship is going to hit a speed bump. There are several important aspects to healthy relationships. The first one I believe is communication. Communication doesn’t always have to be verbal speaking The eyes are the key to your soul. There are many times that two people can convey an unspoken language simply by using their eyes. The way a person looks at another can have very strong emotional effects. When a person looks at their mate with an unbridled desire, the other will receive the emotion mentally. The same holds true to negative or angry energy, be careful what vibes you send to your other half. Physical touch is also another mode of non-verbal communication. This doesn’t mean a simple hug; Dig deeper to the emotional side, a back rub, or more personal and sensual rub down is an excellent way to communicate feelings and desires. Close body contact when unexpected can reignite a smoldering spark. For example, when your significant other was doing the dishes, or watching television, when was the last time you wrapped your arms around them first, or engaged in a snuggle session on the couch. Close physical contact with a loving attitude releases natural feel good endorphins. Written communication, close to spoken but in another form is usually received willingly. Remember the love letters that were once shared when the romance was new? Writing a letter and expressing your value of the other person will help reunite the love flow. Make sure you include the things you love and admire about them, the things you miss and the things that you look forwards to in your future. Meeting the physical needs of a partner expresses an unselfish attitude. Maybe a person isn’t in the mood for an erotic encounter; this doesn’t mean that you should ignore the wants of your partner. There are many ways to meet the sexual needs of your partner without having sex. Take the time and get to know your partners body and find what different triggers will help them in their time of need. Showing them that you are more than happy to help them with their needs before yours will help deepen a relationship.