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My New Shadow

Against my better judgement, I went out and picked up a new dog, a puppy actually. I have always wanted a rat terrier, they have been known to have a good reputation and they are adorable as pups. This pup seems to be housebroke at eight-weeks old. Is this possible? I wouldn't believe it if I wasn't living it. Jasper is one cool rat terrier.

rat terriers are not for those who want a quiet, slow-do nothing dog. They are full of energy and love to play. Don't let the size, (or lack of) these dogs fool you, even thou they make for a good apartment size dog, they still need exercise. to keep a rat terrier healthy and happy, 30 minutes of vigorous play is recommended. This could prove to be burdensome for my freelancing, but with a dog like this I'm sure.everything will work out just fine.

How To Avoid the Break Down of Trust

Trust is defined as a firm reliance on the integrity or ability of a person or thing. All relationships are built around trust, personal, business or family- all relationships are built on trust. Unfortunately, once the foundation of trust has been broken, it can take an enormous amount of time to get it back. Here are five ways that trust can be shaken, and how to prevent it.

Secrecy

By far the biggest trust killer of all is living in secrecy. Once a person falls into the trap of hiding something, wither it be an action, a conversation or embarrassing moment, trust will begin to crumble. It may not happen immediately, but sooner or later no matter how big or small, secrets will be exposed and the trust will fade. Think of secrecy as an invisible blanket. Once you harbor a tiny little secret within yourself, you establish a barrier between yourself and your partner. Eventually, the invisible blanket becomes physical, and the one you keep the secrets from will notice a change, even the slightest change is enough to throw up a red flag, and once the flag is thrown the distrust comes into play. When you trust someone, you depend on their ability to understand and support your actions. Keep in mind that the person that is involved needs to have the same trust in you as you do them. Keeping conversations open and sharing feelings and emotions is a way to build trust.

Acting

A person can lose trust from the behavior or body language of another. When having a conversation with someone you care for and an opinion is sought, say what you mean. When asked a question, resist the temptation to save face. If you disagree with a comment, although you may say you agree, your body language will clearly state your honest opinion. When someone sees the conflict between mind and body, it become clear that they're not being honest and the red flag appears again.

Unmet needs.

In general, we become involved in a relationship to have our needs met. In a healthy trusting relationship, you should be able to clearly state your needs to your partner. If you feel a resistance in sharing your needs, it may send a signal that you're hiding something from your partner. Maybe your partner will start to feel that some of your needs are being met in other ways, and here we go, the red flag falls once again. Find sometime and search yourself. What exactly are your needs to feel fulfilled in a relationship? Do you feel a need for more conversation? Do you need to be cuddled more on the couch while watching a movie? Do you need a spicier bedroom romp? Repressing your needs can also cause the blanket effect, and may cause you to withhold some emotions to your partner. Set some time for yourself and establish your needs and then discuss them with your other half.

Avoidance

At some point in every relationship, there is a time where there is going to be something you just don't want to discuss. This is under

Sustainable, but a hindrance at the same time. Avoiding a situation brings out the dreaded blanket barrier. Your partner will clearly be able to see that there is something bothering you, and what do you suppose they will think when you avoid the problem? They're going to assume the worst. To build trust, you need to be ready to embrace confrontation. Be willing to communicate delicate situations and be ready to seek a healthy solution to the problems, open communication develops trust.

Individuality

Among all things in building trust, remain yourself. Never go into a relationship trying to please the other person if it makes you bend your character. Be honest with yourself and your partner at the start. A relationship is built on honesty. If you find yourself in a relationship where you have to pretend to be someone else, you're being dishonest to yourself and your partner. You will find yourself becoming uneasy in situations because you're not allowed to cope with the situation on a normal level. The uneasiness will most certainly be noticed by your partner and when the truth comes out, questions to why you deceived them will develop.

Keeping a relationship healthy means having a high level of trust. Using the above tips may help you foster a deeper relationship.

When Words Arent Enough

There comes a point in every relationship, no matter how in love you are with someone, there’s going to be some kind of strain. Maybe someone doesn’t feel like their being listened to, or maybe there’s not enough affection. Eventually every relationship is going to hit a speed bump. There are several important aspects to healthy relationships. The first one I believe is communication. Communication doesn’t always have to be verbal speaking The eyes are the key to your soul. There are many times that two people can convey an unspoken language simply by using their eyes. The way a person looks at another can have very strong emotional effects. When a person looks at their mate with an unbridled desire, the other will receive the emotion mentally. The same holds true to negative or angry energy, be careful what vibes you send to your other half. Physical touch is also another mode of non-verbal communication. This doesn’t mean a simple hug; Dig deeper to the emotional side, a back rub, or more personal and sensual rub down is an excellent way to communicate feelings and desires. Close body contact when unexpected can reignite a smoldering spark. For example, when your significant other was doing the dishes, or watching television, when was the last time you wrapped your arms around them first, or engaged in a snuggle session on the couch. Close physical contact with a loving attitude releases natural feel good endorphins. Written communication, close to spoken but in another form is usually received willingly. Remember the love letters that were once shared when the romance was new? Writing a letter and expressing your value of the other person will help reunite the love flow. Make sure you include the things you love and admire about them, the things you miss and the things that you look forwards to in your future. Meeting the physical needs of a partner expresses an unselfish attitude. Maybe a person isn’t in the mood for an erotic encounter; this doesn’t mean that you should ignore the wants of your partner. There are many ways to meet the sexual needs of your partner without having sex. Take the time and get to know your partners body and find what different triggers will help them in their time of need. Showing them that you are more than happy to help them with their needs before yours will help deepen a relationship.

Changing the monster within

Being a parent with a strong willed child is a frusterating experience. Not being able to go out to public places because your afraid of how your child is going to throw a fit is almost depressing. For all my parent friends who have strong willed kids, here are 5 ways to encourage more desired behavior
1.Praise.
Kids truly do seek to please their parents, with everything that is going on in this crazy hectic world, we sometimes forget how important it is to give praise when it is due. Make sure the praise is genuine, and avoid flat praise, what I mean about flat praise is be specific about the behavior you are pleased with.
Use: I really like the way you shared your toys with Sam
not: Thanks for being good
2.Ignore the trivial
I use to have a really hard time picking my battles with my kids. It seemed that every time they had a problem, no matter how small it was it had an amazing way of turning into something huge. I have learned that if they are not in the process of destroying something, harming themselves or others, let them be. When a fight breaks out over a toy, let them know how silly it is to be fighting over one particular toy while there are other toys to play with, and then walk away, let them work it out. The odds are in our favor that when they observe us not throwing a fuss over it, neither will they.
3.Use rewards
Many friends of mine (including myself) have fallen into the trap of giving their kids a toy when they have been well behaved. That may be fine for some, but could also lead to the child constantly expecting some physical reward a toy, a choice of candy. This leading to the gimme gimmeies. A better idea? How about kids choice?

If you could do one thing with Mommy, what would it be?
If you could take one friend to do something special what would you want to do?
If you could make something, what would it be?
Instead of rewarding them with something physical, help them build a memory.
4.Stop complaining.
No one likes to be around a constant complainer. One of my worst traits was constantly finding something not quite done to my satisfaction,
The rooms were clean, but the bookshelf was a mess
The floor was vaccumed, but someone forgot to move a chair
clothes were folded but not put up
it was the small things that kept me grumbling, some people think that constant nagging will lead to better results, studies have shown that the more you nag, the more it effects a childs self esteem, and kids with low self esteem seem to be the ones more prone to problems. Dont sweat the small things, and you and your kids will have a much better time in the company of others, as well as have a happier home in the end. I learned a lot from a book called 21 days to a happy child, things that really opened my eyes. For those of you that are like me, and feel bad about the way you would yell and scream at your kids like I did mine, there is relief, If your tired of waking up in the morning to the same routine, your nerves are as frazzled as mine and you have a genuine concern for your childs future, this book is for you, find 21 Days to A Happy child Click Here!

I cant believe she ate it

One more day of my kiddo refusing to eat is going to make me pull my hair out. Why is it so hard to get kids to eat things that are healthy for them? UUUUUggghghgh!!!!!!!

i made myself suffer through Fifi and the flower tots, wonderpets (always cute) and the weird one with the little asian girl, kni hi kailin? I know I'm way off with the spelling, so shoot me. After all that you would thing I could catch a little break! does anyone have any ideas on how to get a picky toddler to eat? Feel free to email me and give me some more ideas instead of the ones I have already tried, which includes

• Finger sandwiches of various assortments
• letting her make her own lunch
• putting smaller than usual portions on her plate
• making a surprise picnic with a menu she created

That's just a few of the things I have attempted to get my picky toddler to eat healthy food. So, any ideas on what I could do?

Asthma, inhaler no more!

Uuuuugh, here we are again in the pre-asthma months for Bri. Seems the hardest months on her are from January to April, I suppose its all the fluctuating temperatures and over active spores going hay wire.
I can be grateful that her asthma isn't soo severe that we have had many trips to the ER. The one was bad enough for me. I did learn a couple secrets to keep her breathing problems at bay for the most part. I'm a firm believer of natural remedies also.


1. Honey is one of the best well known treatments for asthma. Not just a great additive for honey butter spread, studies have shown that inhaling the fumes from a honey jar help thin the mucus in your nose. Eating a teaspoon of honey will thin the mucus in our lungs, giving us relief in breathing with out using an inhaler.

Lemons, not only used in a homemade furniture polish! Lemons are loaded with vitamin C, we all know what vitamin C does for us. The lemon treatment serves two purposes.

2. Lemon is a natural antiseptic that when mixed 1 teaspoon to a 8 ounce glass of water has been proven to knock out the bad germs that hide in our mucus membranes, which cuts back on the possibility of infections, lemon is another one of natures miracles that thins mucus.

There are many home remedies for natural asthma treatments, for more ideas to help alleviate the agony of breathlessness, I recommend reading Susan Milliars ebook, Dramatic Asthma Relief Click Here!. Get a free report of why the costly, harmful medications that we put in our bodies aren't really effective to treat an asthma attack.